Friends After 30

So 35 is knock, knock, knocking at my door and I must say I don't care that it is because I am loving every second of my 30's.  But I will admit I have one glitch in this decade thus far....and......it is......

MAKING FRIENDS.....I have friends but we are spread all over the country and life has changed so very much since our twenties and 99% of them have kids and that isn't a bad thing but as many people know kids take up what  little time adults have.  I love all my friends but now I am living in a new place so I am trying to make friends and build a community.

So I have mentioned I joined some meet-up groups and I find it a good way to be social but finding friends is like what it was like dating and finding a man.  You see its difficult you don't want to appear needy but you don't want to be to stand-offish either.

When you ask someone to hang-out it feels like asking someone out on a date.  I feel like I have a flashing sign on my head that says PLEASE HANG-OUT WITH ME.

I have  hung-out with someone from work, she is 22 and I had  nice time but everything in your 20's is so emotionally intense....But its like listening to a reality show never a dull moment.

I have a lady I met she is 60ish and we trade massage she is amazing and hilarious and a hippy/activist.  She is one funky lady when I go for my massage or when I go to give her one I factor in about an hour of time after the session to just chat.(Texans love to talk) She had me in stitches this past Saturday talking about men and sex.  I will just leave it at that but aside from our talks she is a garden queen front and backyard she grows it all.  An she loves her music.  I hope when I am her age I am as positive, vibrant, active and funny.

When I first moved her I meet a young lady that worked at the store right next to my apartment complex and she had just moved to the area as well.  Talking one time she said it was hard to make friends, I said we should go out some time and I left it at that.  By the end of the next week I was out at a swimming hole alone watching people swim and hangout together and I felt so alone because I had nobody to share the experience with.

I will be honest I cried a bit as I drove back from swimming and when I drove home I stopped at the store to see if the lady was working and asked her if she felt up to grabbing a drink this weekend she said yes...And we had a blast last night at the bar this place made specialty whiskey of all flavors.  It was called BuzzMill's it more of a Coffee/Bar Bar.....They have a yard with all kinds of chairs and food trucks, it stays open 24hrs....We talked until 2 a.m. and it was so nice to just talk and get to know someone.  I can't lie and say it wasn't awkward at times trying to make chit chat and what not but....I must say I may have found a new Austin friend.

To Anyone over 30 trying to make friends...Remember
1.  Its going to be awkward
2.  Take it slow (aka don't share your life story)
3.  Your not looking for the perfect friend

WAIT ONE MINUTE!!!!! Does that sound like a first date?  I think it does

Welcome to making friends at 30!!!